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		<title>By: liagpidge</title>
		<link>http://www.melwhite.org/blog/65/comment-page-1#comment-3930</link>
		<dc:creator>liagpidge</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Tue, 17 Aug 2010 06:12:04 +0000</pubDate>
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		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Tiffany&#8217;s jewelry is world famous company and if <b><a href="http://www.etiffanystore.com" rel="nofollow">tiffany engagement rings</a></b>  you cannot afford the actual jewelry there are a lot of Tiffany inspired jewelry to choose from. While Tiffany&#8217;s <b>tiffany co</b>  has produced some more affordable pieces like key chains and money clips pandora beads  for those wanting the elegant pieces without the price tag there are other options. Tiffany produces bracelets, rings, earrings <b>tiffany pendants</b>  and necklaces.</p>
<p>Besides the traditional Tiffany&#8217;s style, the jewelry <b>tiffany charms</b>  comes in the traditional blue box and you can even find Tiffany inspired jewelry that <b><a href="http://www.pandoraforyou.com" rel="nofollow">pandora necklaces</a></b>  reproduces the Tiffany style down to the box. Tiffany jewelry is traditionally sterling <b>tiffany necklaces</b>  silver as the Tiffany Company has produced a special blend of silver that is very strong pandora jewellery  and will last.</p>
<p>It is not a direct replica but it is inspired from the Tiffany style so <b><a href="http://www.etiffanystore.com" rel="nofollow">tiffanyjewelry</a></b>  many of the pieces are very similar to Tiffany. Some companies <b>pandora bangles</b>  may even produce direct replicas. The main difference between real Tiffany&#8217;s jewelry tiffany jewelry  and the inspired version jewelry is the price tag. They are just as beautiful <b>tiffany earrings</b>  and classic as the real ones but at much more affordable prices. If you aspire for <b>tiffany</b>  a piece of Tiffany&#8217;s then you should investigate Tiffany inspired jewelry.</p>
<p>This jewelry can be found in many <b>tiffany earrings</b>  places, in stores and online. You can search the <b>pandora bracelet</b>  internet to discover the companies in your area that provide this type <b>tiffany co</b>  of jewelry. Their heart pendants are particularly popular. These <b>pandora beads</b>  floating heart pendants come in silver, gold and with crystals. They <b>tiffany jewelry</b>  also have the traditional Tiffany&#8217;s circle of life pendant tiffany  that resembles a circle of crystals on a chain.</p>
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		<title>By: Joe Jalovel</title>
		<link>http://www.melwhite.org/blog/65/comment-page-1#comment-1990</link>
		<dc:creator>Joe Jalovel</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Wed, 21 Apr 2010 15:54:18 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>Well, the article is really the sweetest on this worthw hile topic. I fit in with your conclusions and will eagerly look forward to your approaching updates. Just saying thanks will not just be adequate, for the great lucidity in your writing. I will instantly grab your rss feed to stay informed of any updates. Fabulous work and much success in your business enterprize!</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Well, the article is really the sweetest on this worthw hile topic. I fit in with your conclusions and will eagerly look forward to your approaching updates. Just saying thanks will not just be adequate, for the great lucidity in your writing. I will instantly grab your rss feed to stay informed of any updates. Fabulous work and much success in your business enterprize!</p>
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		<title>By: Bea Green</title>
		<link>http://www.melwhite.org/blog/65/comment-page-1#comment-106</link>
		<dc:creator>Bea Green</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Fri, 04 Sep 2009 22:52:41 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>I&#039;ve heard gay men describe circuit parties with their sexual indulgence as &quot;spiritual experiences&quot;. 
In a relationship, you experience intimacy with one person but at a circuit party where you have sex with dozens of men, there is no &quot;one other&quot; but rather you loose your individuality  in essential maleness.

I suspect it is a liberating experience for people who have only experienced repression.</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>I&#8217;ve heard gay men describe circuit parties with their sexual indulgence as &#8220;spiritual experiences&#8221;.<br />
In a relationship, you experience intimacy with one person but at a circuit party where you have sex with dozens of men, there is no &#8220;one other&#8221; but rather you loose your individuality  in essential maleness.</p>
<p>I suspect it is a liberating experience for people who have only experienced repression.</p>
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		<title>By: Rev. Dr. Robin Gorsline</title>
		<link>http://www.melwhite.org/blog/65/comment-page-1#comment-63</link>
		<dc:creator>Rev. Dr. Robin Gorsline</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Fri, 28 Aug 2009 18:13:01 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>Mel, as always the truth teller. Thank you! You are, in the best tradition of the berdache and others, a true spirit guide -- showing the way between the worlds and linking in all together with the deep desire, the eros, God gives us to share. I intend to share your commentary with my partner, Jonathan, as we continue to evolve in our sexual lives. Jonathan is 50 and I am 62 and our histories are quite different and our shames are also. But we have them, even as seek to shed them. Thanks for showing me what courage looks like, in leather or Calvin Klein or . . . 
Much admiration and love,
Robin</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Mel, as always the truth teller. Thank you! You are, in the best tradition of the berdache and others, a true spirit guide &#8212; showing the way between the worlds and linking in all together with the deep desire, the eros, God gives us to share. I intend to share your commentary with my partner, Jonathan, as we continue to evolve in our sexual lives. Jonathan is 50 and I am 62 and our histories are quite different and our shames are also. But we have them, even as seek to shed them. Thanks for showing me what courage looks like, in leather or Calvin Klein or . . .<br />
Much admiration and love,<br />
Robin</p>
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		<title>By: Nancye</title>
		<link>http://www.melwhite.org/blog/65/comment-page-1#comment-23</link>
		<dc:creator>Nancye</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Sun, 09 Aug 2009 12:34:12 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>Hi Mel,
thank you so much for sharing your experience and particularly your innermost thoughts. Your honesty is so helpful and particularly for those of us who are still finding our way after years of being locked up and playing the role that we thought we had to. You show us that the journey is an unfolding one no matter what age or stage of it we are at and at any point we can make changes for growth. 
Blessings to you and Gary</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Hi Mel,<br />
thank you so much for sharing your experience and particularly your innermost thoughts. Your honesty is so helpful and particularly for those of us who are still finding our way after years of being locked up and playing the role that we thought we had to. You show us that the journey is an unfolding one no matter what age or stage of it we are at and at any point we can make changes for growth.<br />
Blessings to you and Gary</p>
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		<title>By: Rev. Ronald M. Pearson</title>
		<link>http://www.melwhite.org/blog/65/comment-page-1#comment-22</link>
		<dc:creator>Rev. Ronald M. Pearson</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Sat, 08 Aug 2009 11:55:32 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>Dear Mel,

You are an inspiration to me and so many other people. Thank you for your honesty in sharing this wonderful experience. You have proven that learning and adjusting continues throughout our life here on earth. You&#039;ve shown that the renewing of the mind is an ongoing process as oppossed to a single experience. 

It is always heartwarming to read about or see gay relationships that stand the test of time. It is through the open testimonies of yourself and others that the rest of us can find hope and encouragement. Especially at a time when many gay relationships don &#039;t make it past a couple to few years. 

Thank you for sharing your life in such an open, vulnerable, way, speaking truth and giving light to the concerns that many of us have and live with day-by-day. Thank you for being a beacon of hope and encouragement, allowing us to know that we&#039;re not alone or the only ones having certain thoughts or experiences. Thank you for guiding us to greater heights through your openness of words, to know that we too, regardless of who we are, or, where we have come from, can stand up and be recognized as gay children of a loving God who loves us just as we are. 

May God continue to release the blessing ordained for you and may you continue to bless others.

In God&#039;s Love, 
Ron</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Dear Mel,</p>
<p>You are an inspiration to me and so many other people. Thank you for your honesty in sharing this wonderful experience. You have proven that learning and adjusting continues throughout our life here on earth. You&#8217;ve shown that the renewing of the mind is an ongoing process as oppossed to a single experience. </p>
<p>It is always heartwarming to read about or see gay relationships that stand the test of time. It is through the open testimonies of yourself and others that the rest of us can find hope and encouragement. Especially at a time when many gay relationships don &#8216;t make it past a couple to few years. </p>
<p>Thank you for sharing your life in such an open, vulnerable, way, speaking truth and giving light to the concerns that many of us have and live with day-by-day. Thank you for being a beacon of hope and encouragement, allowing us to know that we&#8217;re not alone or the only ones having certain thoughts or experiences. Thank you for guiding us to greater heights through your openness of words, to know that we too, regardless of who we are, or, where we have come from, can stand up and be recognized as gay children of a loving God who loves us just as we are. </p>
<p>May God continue to release the blessing ordained for you and may you continue to bless others.</p>
<p>In God&#8217;s Love,<br />
Ron</p>
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		<title>By: Wordweaverlynn</title>
		<link>http://www.melwhite.org/blog/65/comment-page-1#comment-18</link>
		<dc:creator>Wordweaverlynn</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Fri, 07 Aug 2009 23:58:02 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>Ken Medema -- he played at the YFC conference in Ocean City one year I went -- 1974, maybe? That was the year I took a copy of The Well of Loneliness. It&#039;s hard to be 15 and Baptist and bisexual.

I am so pleased to see this honest, loving depiction of a longterm relationship between men. I only hope that your marriage will soon be recognized by the state as well as by God.</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Ken Medema &#8212; he played at the YFC conference in Ocean City one year I went &#8212; 1974, maybe? That was the year I took a copy of The Well of Loneliness. It&#8217;s hard to be 15 and Baptist and bisexual.</p>
<p>I am so pleased to see this honest, loving depiction of a longterm relationship between men. I only hope that your marriage will soon be recognized by the state as well as by God.</p>
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		<title>By: Mollena</title>
		<link>http://www.melwhite.org/blog/65/comment-page-1#comment-17</link>
		<dc:creator>Mollena</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Fri, 07 Aug 2009 23:35:27 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>It is truly inspiring to read of people who live their lives in a compassionate, open loving way and are not in the shadow of fear and doubt!  

Your story is very inspiring and I look forward to following along!

Peace

~Mollena</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>It is truly inspiring to read of people who live their lives in a compassionate, open loving way and are not in the shadow of fear and doubt!  </p>
<p>Your story is very inspiring and I look forward to following along!</p>
<p>Peace</p>
<p>~Mollena</p>
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		<title>By: Michelle</title>
		<link>http://www.melwhite.org/blog/65/comment-page-1#comment-16</link>
		<dc:creator>Michelle</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Fri, 07 Aug 2009 20:49:50 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>Hi Mel,

Thanks for this wonderful post!  I think you&#039;ve hit on something that a lot of people feel.  Gay men have such a rich cultural heritage, and it makes me sad that much of that has been lost to shame and fear since the AIDS epidemic began.  I love the idea of circuit or white parties and in the words of one of my good friends, One thousand men on a ship, Yay, yay, yay!!!!  You and Gary look wonderful in the picture.  It&#039;s never too late to love the way we want to and to celebrate the things we might have missed before.  Thanks for posting this great piece of writing.</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Hi Mel,</p>
<p>Thanks for this wonderful post!  I think you&#8217;ve hit on something that a lot of people feel.  Gay men have such a rich cultural heritage, and it makes me sad that much of that has been lost to shame and fear since the AIDS epidemic began.  I love the idea of circuit or white parties and in the words of one of my good friends, One thousand men on a ship, Yay, yay, yay!!!!  You and Gary look wonderful in the picture.  It&#8217;s never too late to love the way we want to and to celebrate the things we might have missed before.  Thanks for posting this great piece of writing.</p>
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		<title>By: Rev Kyle</title>
		<link>http://www.melwhite.org/blog/65/comment-page-1#comment-15</link>
		<dc:creator>Rev Kyle</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Fri, 07 Aug 2009 20:14:57 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>Ah, Brother Mel!  You do speak Truth!

I hadn&#039;t heard of White Parties, and I am so glad that you found one and used the experience to share with us the truth that we all come out again and again, about way more than the &quot;big things&quot; (like sexual orientation and gender identity).  Communication is key to relationship health, and knowing ourselves comes before tell our truth to another.  What a journey!

As I constantly ponder how the Still Speaking God urges me to &quot;say what I need to say,&quot; I cherish this story of yours and the many points of resonance I feel with it.  

At the National Gathering of the United Church Coalition for Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender Concerns, we spoke with similar honesty - about the mystique of bare-backing and the dangerous drop in safer-sex practices among young gay men; about the rise of HIV infection among young Black women; about the damaging effect of the APA categorizations of Transgender people; about the failure of the Church to get over speaking &quot;nicely&quot; and speak up about so many real-life concerns, and do so in church...!

Thank you for sharing in such a personal and vulnerable way.  Your courage is inspiring.

Blessings,

--Kyle</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Ah, Brother Mel!  You do speak Truth!</p>
<p>I hadn&#8217;t heard of White Parties, and I am so glad that you found one and used the experience to share with us the truth that we all come out again and again, about way more than the &#8220;big things&#8221; (like sexual orientation and gender identity).  Communication is key to relationship health, and knowing ourselves comes before tell our truth to another.  What a journey!</p>
<p>As I constantly ponder how the Still Speaking God urges me to &#8220;say what I need to say,&#8221; I cherish this story of yours and the many points of resonance I feel with it.  </p>
<p>At the National Gathering of the United Church Coalition for Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender Concerns, we spoke with similar honesty &#8211; about the mystique of bare-backing and the dangerous drop in safer-sex practices among young gay men; about the rise of HIV infection among young Black women; about the damaging effect of the APA categorizations of Transgender people; about the failure of the Church to get over speaking &#8220;nicely&#8221; and speak up about so many real-life concerns, and do so in church&#8230;!</p>
<p>Thank you for sharing in such a personal and vulnerable way.  Your courage is inspiring.</p>
<p>Blessings,</p>
<p>&#8211;Kyle</p>
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